Constantly moving from giving into sacrifice.
As we know sacrifice isn’t the way it’s meant to be, plus self-sacrifice causes problems in the future with our own sustainability, and how much we can do and give on the long term.
So how do you stop yourself tipping into unhealthy self-sacrifice instead of giving?
Here’s a simple idea based on Five Energy Dynamics that I share with clients who over deliver by spending too much time with their client in a 1-2-1 session.
Identify the absolute outside time you should spend with a client.
Say if your normal slot is 1 hour, the absolute outside time you should spend might be 1 hour 15mins. That would give you a bit of slack in case something pops up, but avoid the 1 hour 45mins + that you perhaps end up spending.
Set this rule for yourself.
If you stick to that time of 1 hour 15mins you make a charitable donation.
The donation needs to be towards something that really means something to you, perhaps feeding and education a child or rescuing a child prostitute, something meaningful to you. This doesn’t even have to cost you anything!
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You should ideally pick a charity that has very little resources, so if you don’t make that donation the charity doesn’t have any other resources to still do that giving.
If the money doesn’t arrive the giving doesn’t happen, it’s dependent on you.
Because here’s the rub…
If you don’t stick to that time of 1 hour 15mins then you aren’t allowed give anything! That’s right, nothing at all.
AND (and this is important too) you have to spend the money on yourself on something you don’t want or need.
It’s important that the rule is fixed and you stick to it!
And wow does it work a treat… your running over time will stop in an instant!
Plus even more get’s given in the long run.
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The Vitality Test and Five Energy Dynamics
In Energy terms this over delivery is a common problem for people with a dominance of Earth Energy in the Five Energy Dynamic profile.
To find out your Five Energy Dynamic profile and if you have a dominance of Earth Energy, take The Vitality Test here
If you’ve already taken The Vitality Test and want to understand why this method of controlling giving to much works in Five Energy terms, read on…
The fixed rules, with no flexibility (extreme Wood) controls the over caring Earth Energy. The Wood Energy boundaries are what the persons Earth Energy needs to get back in balance.
To find out your Five Energy Dynamic profile, take The Vitality Test